According to a recent survey more than sixty percent of
wives feel that they have been caused long term stress because of friction with
their mother-in-law. Many of us struggle to get along with family members,
particularly our partners, so it is important to know how to defuse potentially
inflammatory situations.
One of the most common complaints is how wives are made to
feel that everything they do, from housework to decor to child rearing, is
wrong by their mother-in-law. It is important to think about why this behavior
may be taking place. Sometimes the mother can feel vulnerable and pushed out
because of her son’s new priorities, while sometimes this criticism is a result
of generational or cultural differences.
It is crucial to not take such criticism personally. Many
critical people are desperate for recognition and attempt to use such behavior
to get attention. A good method to cope with them is to remain friendly and
non-defensive, and perhaps even agree with what they say. Sometimes critics are
looking for an argument and are confused and bewildered when one does not
eventuate. It is possible that a consistent use of this tactic might even
eventually cause them to change their behavior if they do not get the response
they are hoping for.
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