Two children
raised by the same parents will likely give very different answers when they
are asked about how they feel about their parents because they perceive things
differently. While one may believe they were disciplined enough or
appropriately, the other may feel that they were over-disciplined or even
abused. When we become adults, many of the decisions we make when it comes to
parenting are based on our own experiences and upbringing. We may choose to
follow our parents’ style or go in the opposite direction.
Here are a few
things to consider when you are trying to decide on the right style of you:
- Remember that your choices will
affect your children’s future happiness, outlook on life and even their
future relationships. We all want what’s best for our children but
sometimes we don’t always make the best choices or decisions. Evaluate
what you are doing and how you are communicating with your children; if
you don’t like the results it’s time to change.
- How much time have you spent
reading information on different parenting styles? Obviously not every
book is right and not every “expert” is really an expert. But that doesn’t
mean there isn’t something to be said for learning something from others –
especially when it comes to things like potty training advice or dealing
with a biter. If there is legitimate advice at your fingertips, there’s no
point in reinventing the wheel.
In the end it all comes down to: if you like the way you
parent, then you’ve picked the right style of parenting for you. You will never
find two parents that agree on everything and you will never find a child who
agrees with his or her parents about the way they are disciplined. In a
nutshell – when it comes to parenting, one size does not fit all.
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